There’s male and there’s female. There man and there’s woman. Then there is women’s rights and the female movement. At this point the parallelism comes to an abrupt halt. There is no male movement or a particular push for men’s right. Men just find themselves in the human rights category. They’ve got nothing exclusive of their own.

Let’s carry on. There’s Drake and there’s Madonna. A 28 year old young man and a matured 56 year old woman.

Let’s establish one or two things before we proceed. Assuming the entire Coachella event was not staged, then Drake was kissed by Madonna without his consent in a public setting.  This kind of incident is generally considered to be sexual harassment or abuse. That’s where it’s categorized. But, since the roles were reversed, It wasn’t the man kissing the woman but rather the woman kissing the man, then apparently that is OK. There is no problem with that. This has been dubbed by the media as every boy’s dream. It reminds me of the Jay-Z-Solange incident. If the roles were reversed it would have been a whole different scenario.

Imagine Mr.Washington going on stage and doing this to Selena. The media will be like” Whaaaat the!!!!???” But reverse the roles and people will be like: “Ooohh!! Ok.”

Women have the women’s rights manual to refer to when something of this sort happens but men, what do they have? They have nothing.

A woman (female) can sue a man for virtually anything that concerns her body. Take away the “wo” or the “fe” and there is nothing to sue. The man is told to “suck it up! It’s every boy’s dream and here you are complaining!”

Hofu yatanda chuo kikuu cha SAUT, Mwanza baada ya mwanafunzi mmoja mwenye asili ya kisomali kudhaniwa ni mfuasi wa al shabab. Tukio hili lilitokea Ijumaa ya tarehe 10 Aprili baada ya taarifa kutanda mitandao ya kijamii hasa whatsapp kuwa magaidi wa al shabab, ambao asili yao ni somalia, walikuwa na mpango wakufanya ugaidi Mwanza siku hiyo.

Inasemekana mwanafunzi huyo mwenye asili ya kisomali aliingia darasa moja la BBA (Bachelor of Business Administration) ambamo walikuwa wakifanya mtihani wanafunzi. Baada ya kuingia darasani mwalimu alijaribu kumuuliza maswali lakini hakujibu swali hata moja. Inasemekana mwalimu huyo ilibidi aulize darasa kama wanamfahamu na darasa walijibu hawamjui na wala hawajawahi kumwona.

Ndipo mwalimu uzalendo ukamshinda na kutimua mbio huku wanafunzi nao wakitimua mbio na baadhi yao kuumizana.

Being a success was quickly defined in my subconscious mind as attaining plenty of money and being enormously wealthy regardless of what it is I did to attain that. Money does play a big part in being successful in some areas but not in all.

Success can be defined as achieving a particular goal in life, be it short-term or long-term. A success is intending to get to the fridge from the couch and managing to do so. Success is desiring a good man and getting one who is loyal and supportive. (But on that point, unless your goals are reasonable, there will never be a perfect man. Only Eve had the perfect man and she blew that away for the rest of you by convincing him to eat of the fruit. Ok, I’m going off topic here.)  Success is owning a housing that you intentionally wanted to have. In such instances as this then money plays a big role in success because it becomes a means of attaining the things that will make you a success. Money in itself is not success. I mean, what will money do for you if you don’t spend it? What will you achieve with money under your pillow? Money is to be spent! You get it so that it can achieve some desires which can be greatly boosted by trading money for them.

Money can get you some material success but relationship success can and should be attained without money. Getting from point A to B can be accomplished the hard way; walking without money.

I looked at this quick definition of success and I realized that I am somehow successful though I can be more successful. Some successes will be boosted greatly with the aid of money but even if I miraculously achieve them without money then I will still consider it a great success. Here are some of the things that I will consider as my own success; to have my own house, to have good food to eat daily and water, to have minimal concerns and worries about life.  With or without money that is a success if achieved.

Now some successes are rated higher than others but all success is success. I intended to write this and I succeeded in doing so, just as another person succeeds in purposely getting out of bed. That is success! We all rate our successes differently but if we understand what it really is then we will realize how successfully we all are. This realization can change how you perceive life. We all fail every once in a while but no one is an undisputed failure. We all succeed in life more often than we fail.

Success is the achievement of an intentional desired goal. I smiled at this new understanding I don’t know what you will do.